Becoming1 is a fluid process without clear stages or terminus, only significant collisions along the way. When my gender journey converged with my caregiver journey,2 my identities crossed through queerness-as-outsider on the way to queerness-as-liberation.3 I realized that fitting into whatever gender positions I was placed by others did not necessarily mean they represented me, only that I was highly adaptive, contained but not bound: genderfluid. This autoethnography depicts the nexus where the person who came before became, officially, the person I am now. Through materiality, memory, and sensation, I invoke the situations and relationships that culminated toward—and emanated from—the singular moment depicted. I draw on the narrative tradition demonstrated by Boylorn and Orbe;4 however, instead of reflecting “seemingly mundane moments that become life changing,”5 I recount a life-changing moment through its mundanity. Its bureaucratic significance pales compared to the kinship lost and the future...

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