As I stood in his shower, taking way too long to wash my hair, I knew our relationship was over. Earlier in the morning, my anxiety about our possible future together, an anxiety that had been festering over the past few months, finally pushed me over the edge. Engaging in relational talk, while important, can be a very stressful activity among romantic or sexual partners. I knew there was some risk in asking about the status of our situation.
“I don’t know what you want!” I stood naked and trembling in front of his bed with a sheet pressed tightly against my stomach.
He looked back, startled. “What are you talking about?”
“What are we doing here?” I jabbed my index finger at him and then back at my chest. “What does this mean to you?”
He sighed. “We...